Being Vulnerable with your Employees and Promoting Valuable Self-Growth.

I sit here writing this after having to recover from a quick crying session. Why is a grown man sulking? My vulnerability is showing and it’s because I was able to witness true development with one of my employees.

Not every day does this happen to me, but when it does it means more to me than money ever will.

Growing up, I never felt like anyone ever wanted to invest in me. I don’t speak of money, but in terms of “time.” Time to promote self-growth and development.

My parents were great. Don’t get me wrong, but most of the things I have come to learn come from learning the hard way. Failing at most times. This happens coming from a blue-collar family living in poverty.

This nostalgic moment brings me back to the point…

These days, we love to blast on social media the good things we have and do in life.

We never talk about struggle, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc.

It’s only vacation times, partying, a quick snapchat of your friend’s parents house that is so big you had to let everyone know you were there. We are all guilty of it.

We love to blast the positives. 

Being vulnerable in the workplace is not a bad thing and it can be super rewarding. For me (when I get to the surprise of this) it is the best thing in the world. I am going to blast this positive myself.

Someone recently asked me, “what makes you happy?”

The only true thing that came to my mind, was “making an impact in other people’s lives.”

I just don’t have the platform yet. I am not Gary Vee, Steve Jobs, Walt Disney or Grant Cardone.

At the moment, I am on a small scale, making an impact on people, one at a time. 

And I am okay with that. I haven’t found a true way to monetize helping people. In the meantime, I can invest my time with the people around me by being more vulnerable, authentic, and help develop them.

As I reflect back to past businesses, I see the common theme of my business models, that provide value to people. Bottom Line: I want to be an inspiration to people and help motivate them. At one point in my life, I didn’t think I would have a chance and my life would soon cease to exist. That I would never have a chance in this world. As this blog focuses on failure, I changed my perspective and it changed my life.

So here is my letter I received today from one of my employees that recently resigned.

A THANK YOU RESIGNATION LETTER
A LETTER FROM MY EMPLOYEE

If this doesn’t make you feel some kind of way. Maybe you don’t have a heart? Or maybe this type of stuff doesn’t have an effect on you.

This comes from a girl that resigned from her first and only job. To make a move to bigger and better things. All it took was a push from me. To let her know that failure awaits her. The learning lessons from those failures would be far greater importance than the failures themselves.

Have you made an impact on someone lately? How did it make you feel? Did the tears of job faucet turn on?

I challenge you to invest in people. Be vulnerable and authentic with them. You never know what could happen. You may help create the next Walt Disney…

 

Currently Listening to “Crushing It” by Gary Vaynerchuk on Audible.

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When is it time to let go and quit your job?

 

There are so many things out there that scare the hell out of me. One is being poor again or even homeless. That would scare anyone. Job security is a real thing. But is it holding you back to embrace what you really want to do? Is it time to quit your job to pursue what you want?

I have the mindset to always progress my future. It is my millennial mindset. You can hate me for it but oh well. It has served me well over the years and has allowed me to progress through the ranks in jobs, unlike my older counterparts.

With anything I do, I have learned once I have acquired the skills in a job, I need to take them and move on to the next thing. Always making an ascending position application.

Job retention is not always in my favor. Job retention may be great for benefits like 401k and healthcare, but will it hold me back from actually progressing?

Moving on and growing is what is important to me.

I have always considered myself an entrepreneur although I have failed at most of them. I don’t care because I am in the process of my life. I learn so much from them. I always end up going back to working for “the man” but eventually I will learn enough to have one of my ventures stick. My passive income will become my primary income.

By failing I mean, did not make an actual sustainable living out of them.

Failure means something different to everyone. How do you define failure in your life?

For me, failure is a learning lesson.

Everyone goes through these lessons. Change your perspective to learn from failure is important.

So when someone stays for a job for 10 years and never promotes, I would call it a failure. It is their life choice just not mine. 20 Years from now, I don’t want to look back and have regret for never trying something new. Or just absolutely feeling stuck in a position.

A learning lesson of a failure.

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After you decided to leave and try something else, you’ll now know to push harder in your promotions, be more verbal and more vigilant in getting what you want. This is very important. If your boss or partner doesn’t know what you want out of a job, how will they ever know?

When you get a new job, you should already have your next position decided. Where do you go to next? To the top is the answer.-Just make it realistic. From Busboy to CEO is not realistic. It can happen but you’ll need a larger timeline.

So.. to answer the question of when you should quit your job, the answer is when you stop learning from where you currently are.

You should never feel stuck or that you will never promote.

Always learn.

learn from your failures.

Without failure, success will never blossom.