Being Vulnerable with your Employees and Promoting Valuable Self-Growth.

I sit here writing this after having to recover from a quick crying session. Why is a grown man sulking? My vulnerability is showing and it’s because I was able to witness true development with one of my employees.

Not every day does this happen to me, but when it does it means more to me than money ever will.

Growing up, I never felt like anyone ever wanted to invest in me. I don’t speak of money, but in terms of “time.” Time to promote self-growth and development.

My parents were great. Don’t get me wrong, but most of the things I have come to learn come from learning the hard way. Failing at most times. This happens coming from a blue-collar family living in poverty.

This nostalgic moment brings me back to the point…

These days, we love to blast on social media the good things we have and do in life.

We never talk about struggle, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc.

It’s only vacation times, partying, a quick snapchat of your friend’s parents house that is so big you had to let everyone know you were there. We are all guilty of it.

We love to blast the positives. 

Being vulnerable in the workplace is not a bad thing and it can be super rewarding. For me (when I get to the surprise of this) it is the best thing in the world. I am going to blast this positive myself.

Someone recently asked me, “what makes you happy?”

The only true thing that came to my mind, was “making an impact in other people’s lives.”

I just don’t have the platform yet. I am not Gary Vee, Steve Jobs, Walt Disney or Grant Cardone.

At the moment, I am on a small scale, making an impact on people, one at a time. 

And I am okay with that. I haven’t found a true way to monetize helping people. In the meantime, I can invest my time with the people around me by being more vulnerable, authentic, and help develop them.

As I reflect back to past businesses, I see the common theme of my business models, that provide value to people. Bottom Line: I want to be an inspiration to people and help motivate them. At one point in my life, I didn’t think I would have a chance and my life would soon cease to exist. That I would never have a chance in this world. As this blog focuses on failure, I changed my perspective and it changed my life.

So here is my letter I received today from one of my employees that recently resigned.

A THANK YOU RESIGNATION LETTER
A LETTER FROM MY EMPLOYEE

If this doesn’t make you feel some kind of way. Maybe you don’t have a heart? Or maybe this type of stuff doesn’t have an effect on you.

This comes from a girl that resigned from her first and only job. To make a move to bigger and better things. All it took was a push from me. To let her know that failure awaits her. The learning lessons from those failures would be far greater importance than the failures themselves.

Have you made an impact on someone lately? How did it make you feel? Did the tears of job faucet turn on?

I challenge you to invest in people. Be vulnerable and authentic with them. You never know what could happen. You may help create the next Walt Disney…

 

Currently Listening to “Crushing It” by Gary Vaynerchuk on Audible.

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Why mentorship is this best thing for your business and youre not doing it.

We hear it all of the time. “It is better to give than to receive.” Well, mentorship doesn’t work this way. Mentorship is a transactive motion.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” — Winston Churchill

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Mentoring benefits go both ways because it benefits the mentee and the mentor. There is a such a humanistic gratification that comes back to those who give. I’ve had an opportunity to be a mentor for someone and years later, I couldn’t be more proud. To know how much you affected their life is so powerful. Not only do I think that mentoring makes you become a better leader, I think it makes you become a better person.

As you get older, and your workers become younger, think to yourself, “how are you shaping the future?” Are you giving your generation a bad name by being the old guy who doesn’t see eye to eye with the younger crowd? Or do you try to give value to the young? Not caring is effortless, but I guarantee you giving back will grow you as a person and help someone along the way.

Learning yourself through others will unload the dividends in your business when it comes to investing in your people. You will become eye to eye with them. You will take a different perspective on your people and that is powerful.

BUT!….

you need this word of advice- It doesn’t matter how successful you are, you will always need your own mentor in life.

That is the transactive motion of mentorship.

mentorship doesn’t just end with you helping someone out. It ends with you becoming more aware of cultures, perspectives, and mindsets of others. In return, this will make you a better leader.

 

A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you. – Bob Proctor