Failing and Winning in an Upward Fashion.

The other day, I had a fantastic chat with one of my employees. It was about failing and winning in an upward fashion.

It was all about failing and taking chances.

Very recently, a management position has opened up in my company. A young girl jokingly told me she should apply for it. I looked at her and told her “absolutely”.

Looking at me crazily, she said: “I was kidding…”

I sat her down and told her a story that started with this.

Michael Jordan is on the record of saying, “you’ll miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

So I asked her what she has to lose from applying for this position that is a little larger than her skill and educational set at the moment?

She was afraid whoever interviewed her would laugh in her face if she even booked a full interview.

So I went back to the original question. What do you have to lose?

She didn’t have a true answer.

So I stopped for a moment and slowly rolled out, you have everything to gain. For a moment she didn’t understand what she would gain from applying for a position way above her head.

I said, ” you may not get this job nor interview, but you will gain valuable skills to teach you to be better in the business world.”

You will learn new and relatable interview questions. I stopped there and asked her one the basics.

“What are your weaknesses?” I was given a cliche answer of not being confident in her decisions.

So I kept going…

“Give me an example of that and how you overcame it.”

She told me these questions were too hard and tried to give up. I kept pushing.

This is the reason you should apply for this position!

Because once you go through these series of questions with someone and you freeze on the spot, you will go home reflect these questions and think of a better way to answer them.

Your next interview will be easier. BOOM!

Strength through adversity.

I had to change her perspective. It wasn’t that she knew she may not get the position. It was the process in the (before and after). It was being scared of failing.

I gave her another reminder.

You will gain so much by taking the chance that no one else would.

AND! You never know what could happen.

Sidenote: She is 19 and wanted to apply for a General Manager position. 

My life as a reference:

I gave her a small story of my life of when I got out of the Navy and was homeless. I applied to over 300 jobs and only booked 3 interviews. 

The job I did get, was something I did not even deserve. I had no experience in that field. I applied for the highest position for that location and the lowest position. 

They didn’t offer me the any of the positions I applied for, but they gave me a step-down from the highest and gave me the assistant manager. 

But… they saw a chance with me. Forever grateful, I worked my butt off to show them I was worth it. I was promoted 5 months later. 

I would have never been there if I didn’t take a chance with myself. I knew my worth and did not want to be defined by past experiences. Put me in this position and I will grow and learn until I am the best.

In a way, I failed that interview. I didn’t get the position I wanted. On the other hand, I was given a chance to better myself.

Take chances, fail at them, learn from them, and come back and crush it.

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What Does It Mean to Fail for Success? A lesson from Michael Jordan Plus More.

Failure– Such a negative and dark meaning to most. On the other paradoxical hand, Failure is the balance of success. Now think about that for a minute…

Now name 5 people you define as very successful.

Do you know their past? Were they trust-fund kids? or did they come from nothing? Most likely 80% of your choices will have come from nothing. Now, how does that have anything to do with failure? Well, great question. Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Gary Vaynerchuk, and others (some of the most innovative people I can think of) come from nothing.

These are the type of people who aren’t scared to fail and take the risk. Think Wallstreet-Risk equals higher rewards. Out of Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, and Dan Bilzerian, who do you look up to most? Depending on your age and ambitions, you may look up to each one of these people at some point in your life but I am sure you boot one of these guys as a role model. Because two of these are innovators while one is not.

Moral of the story, is that successful people fail A LOT. Personally, I keep failing. AND that is OKAY.

This is where I am seeing the most growth. Because I learn so much from it. Think Michael Jordan or even Thomas Edison.

To me, Michael Jordan is one of the biggest celebrity advocates on the Failing for Success mindset. Just read a couple of his quotes.

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  • I can accept failure, but I can’t accept not trying.
  • Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Even Thomas Edison, we can all thank him for the lightbulb.

In regards to Failing for Success, he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

The failing for Success mindset isn’t about intentionally failing at something because you think you will succeed certainly afterward. What it is about, is embracing failure as a catalyst for growth and lessons.
If we don’t teach ourselves that move past failures and flip it on its back to understand the hidden message behind failure then you haven’t learned anything.
LEARN, LEARN, LEARN from your mistakes because you are your biggest coach.