When is it time to let go and quit your job?

 

There are so many things out there that scare the hell out of me. One is being poor again or even homeless. That would scare anyone. Job security is a real thing. But is it holding you back to embrace what you really want to do? Is it time to quit your job to pursue what you want?

I have the mindset to always progress my future. It is my millennial mindset. You can hate me for it but oh well. It has served me well over the years and has allowed me to progress through the ranks in jobs, unlike my older counterparts.

With anything I do, I have learned once I have acquired the skills in a job, I need to take them and move on to the next thing. Always making an ascending position application.

Job retention is not always in my favor. Job retention may be great for benefits like 401k and healthcare, but will it hold me back from actually progressing?

Moving on and growing is what is important to me.

I have always considered myself an entrepreneur although I have failed at most of them. I don’t care because I am in the process of my life. I learn so much from them. I always end up going back to working for “the man” but eventually I will learn enough to have one of my ventures stick. My passive income will become my primary income.

By failing I mean, did not make an actual sustainable living out of them.

Failure means something different to everyone. How do you define failure in your life?

For me, failure is a learning lesson.

Everyone goes through these lessons. Change your perspective to learn from failure is important.

So when someone stays for a job for 10 years and never promotes, I would call it a failure. It is their life choice just not mine. 20 Years from now, I don’t want to look back and have regret for never trying something new. Or just absolutely feeling stuck in a position.

A learning lesson of a failure.

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After you decided to leave and try something else, you’ll now know to push harder in your promotions, be more verbal and more vigilant in getting what you want. This is very important. If your boss or partner doesn’t know what you want out of a job, how will they ever know?

When you get a new job, you should already have your next position decided. Where do you go to next? To the top is the answer.-Just make it realistic. From Busboy to CEO is not realistic. It can happen but you’ll need a larger timeline.

So.. to answer the question of when you should quit your job, the answer is when you stop learning from where you currently are.

You should never feel stuck or that you will never promote.

Always learn.

learn from your failures.

Without failure, success will never blossom.

 

 

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The Case for the Technology Age. Can we learn to love it?

These damn millennials and their technology. …

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I hear this countless times. As someone who has worked in age-diverse workforces, I find the older guys cant keep up with the ever-changing technology in business.

I don’t blame them. It is their generational stigma. Read books and newspapers not Instagram and youtube. These damn kids and their computers. Get out and play!

Where is the balance and where is the compromise?

I can tell you one thing. Technology is only getting more advanced. Either adapt or you will die. Not literally but maybe in business. In 10 years, it may be impossible to pay your bills over the phone (speaking with a human) or via mail.

It blows my mind. Technology is so scary and so fascinating at the same time.

When I obtained my Master’s degree in Organizational Leadership, I became so fascinated with leadership traits that dealt with technology. So I wrote my capstone on multigenerational workplaces and the right leadership approach. I found that adaptive leadership was the right approach to deal with different types of generations working together. They are called either Digital Natives (those born into technology) and Digital Immigrants (those who lived before the tech boom). Now without getting too crazy into research, this branding does not always fit the bill.

But think of the Baby-boomers and Gen X as being the old guys for this point.

The old guys are dying out. They spend countless hours calculating things on paper, tracking, etc. In the business world, time is money. So save your money and become adaptive to the new age.

It’s not a bad idea and possibly safer. But automation is here my friend. Embrace it or move out of the way.

Disclaimer, so many people take arguments as literal or the one and only. I am not saying technology is the savior or Holy Grail. What I am saying is that technology has been introduced into the world and it’s not going away.

Either jump on aboard or get left behind. Don’t be that grandparent that joins facebook because your grandkids don’t know how to call a house phone. Do those even exist anymore?

The newer generations born after 1990’s have it made. We have the potential to be the smartest generation to date.

We have this online place that we can go and learn anything we want. For free. No formal education and student loans. It is called Youtube.com. There are many like it but a database like youtube nothing compares. Paying for college? I am sure I can find your professor teaching your class on youtube for free. As thing become monetized youtube may go away become a more business-like model making you pay for bandwidth at some point. They are trying this now with their own movies on Youtube Red.

Back to the point, don’t be that guy that bashes on technology. At one point, the wheel, hammer, and basket were all considered technology.

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A stone wheel-Considered technology at the time

I have a thermostat that learns my preferences and saves me money without me doing anything. How is that not the coolest thing ever?

I just watched Ready Player One and I thought of the movie Wall-E where everyone is brainwashed by technology and use it to get away from reality.

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Ready Player One- A life of technology shielding you from reality.

Technology is a tool to become smarter and more efficient.

Don’t abuse it and learn to love it.

The Life of Balance and Why It Can Tear You Apart.

My life is hectic. But I am sure yours is too.

How does one quantify that? How hectic, one’s life is? Does school and work equally balance someone else’s’ party life? Or if they travel the world while someone else is writing their own book?

In this world, how do we measure whats more important compared to one another?

is it success or experiences? is it having a family or money?

How do I measure how crazy my life is to yours?

Maybe we cant. But I will tell you, that balance is the key to it all.

Does your leisure time balance your work time? A lot of successful people talk about having a job that doesn’t feel like a job.

I can assure you they aren’t like everyone else in the crazy world. They may have worked hard to get where they are but at some point, things changed for them.

I question things like this on the daily.

How do we find the balance of the yin and yang to our lives?

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They are two different paradoxes and dual polarity.

The dark side of the symbol brightened with a circle of bright while the other bright side has a circle of darkness. The everlasting symbol that nothing is perfect and that failure has a good side to it.

The balance of life goes something like this. With a life full of darkness and bad decisions, you can always feed the good side.

On the other hand, with a life full of brightness/success, you can be consumed by darkness.

When success starts coming at you, it is easy to let the bad things start to slip into your life. Think of the countless movie stars that get in trouble with drinking and driving, drugs, affairs, etc. These are normal people living unordinary lives, but I use them as an example of how quick success can lead to demise.

Looking at failure and how success can grow out of it is my favorite topic. There are countless influencers out there that are doing this. My all-time favorite is GARY VEE.

I have been in some dark places in my life as I am sure everyone has. It is understanding the light in the darkness and how to live in it. On the flip of the yin-yang paradox, don’t let the darkness take over your light.

Learn to balance everything you do.

 

Why Joining the Navy was the Best decision of my life.

The Navy gave me a complex. I kind of hated it while I was in.

But I respect the hell out of it, now that I am out.

If you have been following my post, you’ll know that I had a successful personal training business some years ago. In 2014, after graduating with my B.S., I decided to enlist. College enlistment is not the smartest idea but very well known in the program I joined.

I wanted something that was bigger than myself and man did I get it.

I picked up a SEAL contract and went in to become a Navy SEAL. It was the most exciting time for me to think I had a shot at becoming one the most elite in the military.

The comradery was a lot of fun at Bootcamp, although I felt Bootcamp was pointless. I didn’t want to learn about ships and Naval history. I wanted to shoot, dive, and blow things up.

Who doesn’t want to do that?

After graduating Bootcamp in the God Forsaken Great Lakes, IL. I headed off to BUDS prep school for 8 weeks which was still in Great Lakes. In retrospect, it feels like I was there a lifetime. I didn’t go many places during the weekends, so I feel like I never restored my morale. I was too poor as a little E-3. (Rank)

We swam, ran, lifted weights Monday through Friday.

By the way, this was the first time I saw snow. I am from Florida.

I passed the exit test and shortly I landed in Coronado, California in Feb 2015.

It was beautiful, I never visited the west coast. I was already traveling and seeing the different parts of the U.S. and I didn’t even have a rate yet. (a rate is your job title)

Now when I did make it through training, I would see the whole world and that was super exciting. To skip a lot of the boring Navy SEAL training portion that is easily found anywhere on google, something happened to me…

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During my 4 mile timed runs on the beach, my legs began to fall asleep.

I had no idea what it was. How do I make it stop? is it in my head? Is this my mind telling me I am weak?

I pushed forward and crossed the finish line with numb legs. I didn’t make the timeline.

Now go get wet.

This happened twice until I was dropped from the program.

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I started to hate the Navy.

What was I going to do now? My legs aren’t working like they used to. Now I have to go cook food on a ship or submarine. (my fate would be chosen by a designator or job picker.)

This was so scary to me. I gave up so much to be here and now my body doesn’t work, what will happen to me?

The unknown was so scary and I fell into depression.

It was the same stuff over and over every day. Sweep the parking lot, take out the trash, etc.

It was a huge morale killer.

But here is what I learned…

It put me at the bottom. I was sweeping parking lots for pennies. I was walking on eggshells around the base because no one likes a sailor that is injured.

(Skipping a lot of medical appointments)

AND THEN I WAS OUT!

Now what? I wasn’t going back to Florida. No way.

So I stayed out in CA. But I didn’t have a job. I applied to 300+ and had 4 interviews. One guy told me I was too motivated, which is still strange to me.

I stuck a job after living in girlfriends parents garage for a couple of months.

I got back on my feet and life was grand. Like isn’t easy in CA for a young man but I was hungry to succeed.

The moral of the story is that life is full of ups and downs and so is the military. On the other hand, I wouldn’t take it back. I learned so much about myself in the Navy. Like how to handle stress, manage fixed income, eat terrible food on a fixed schedule.

It made me stronger and you’ll learn so much about yourself while pushing yourself out of your comfort zone.

I didn’t have an easy time in the military and still get uneasy when people ask me what I did and how long I served.

Take chances, do things that are bigger than yourself, learn from them. There are plenty of people who will read this wanting to get the inside scoop. I am not that guy.

I am failing for success.

Why Fitness Changed my Life and Made Me a Better Business Person.

I was never healthy in high school nor did I care about fitness. I had a gym class, but nothing worth boasting about. I think I slept through most of it. I was attending a community college and working in retail with no plan for my life.

Like most of us. Living without a plan.

After, putting in long hours at this retail store and burning my brain cells with college papers, I met someone unexpectedly. No, not my love life, but a new love for my life.

Enter same-age mentor. Yes, you can have a mentor regardless of their age.

A co-worker/best friend at this retail store received news of moving out of his parent’s house because this person needed a roommate. Shortly after, they moved in together and I would always go to their house.

This guy went to the same high school as me, but we didn’t talk much. I knew he was into fitness. He was from a different clique than me so we didn’t hang out. (sounds so high school cliche now)

After being around this guy here and there, I asked him for help with my fitness needs. I was envious of him.

He agreed to let me train with him. He snuck me into this gym, so I didn’t have to pay for a few months, and the changes I began to notice were incredible. Within 6 months, I went from 130 pounds to 165 pounds. Some may say that weight gain is incredible, and I agree! I was accused of using steroids by friends. I was proud to hear that.

But what the biggest changes were my psychological changes. I didn’t even notice it until I reflected some few years back.

Looking back, I noticed how the micromanagement of my life started to take shape. But how does fitness change your micromanagement? The answer is simple. PLANNING.

I began to make goals of my own weight, PR’s, reps, etc. Better yet, I started tracking it.

Looking at the new wins week-by-week, my confidence started to grow. I started to strive for more at school by increasing my course load. Here is my best win in all of this- I quit my job in retail that was draining me of my positive energy.

With this booming confidence, I went to the owner of the fitness center and told her I was going to work there. She told me no! over and over again. But I didn’t give up and went there every day for 3 weeks until she told me yes.

Enter large milestone- Persistence to get the things I wanted. This is huge in business.

I became so excited about my changes for myself that I wanted to help others do it as well. I was working the front desk part-time and couldn’t afford a personal training certification, so I asked my parents for a small loan. Reluctantly agreeing, I pushed through it and became a certified trainer. Business terms-loan, deadline, project management.

Here I am with the cliche personal trainer look about 6 months into my new career. This was my new marketing material and I put it everywhere.

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My first client was an inspiring woman named Rosalind. I read about what good personal training rates were, but I couldn’t sell it to her. I was too fresh and too green. I  negotiated the prices with her and thus learned something about negotiation and knowing your own value. I could always undercut all of the other trainers in the facility and bring in more business but I settled for roughly 10-20% below the industry standard because of my lack of experience.

Long story short, I prevailed. I failed and I learned.


I became better, year by year, and stayed there as a trainer for almost 5 years. I learned so much about myself as I began to grow my skills in business and personally.

My clientele list became bigger and bigger as my name grew and they stayed with me longer.  Rosalind left and came back several times and I was always happy to see her although we were restarting every time.

To me- resetting goals can be important too.

Taxes started to change for me. I remember one month, I have taxed a few thousand dollars and thought something was wrong. I was now at the point where I reached a new tax bracket and it hurt.

Marketing yourself and branding yourself. This was an important business lesson. I don’t know where I learned it, but I went full force.

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I was young and hungry to grow my presence in the local fitness industry. I spent a lot of money on marketing myself. I wrote a blog, made t-shirts, shaker bottles, wristbands, etc. The mistakes I made, were not measuring the return on investment (ROI). So, therefore, I was probably in a huge hole when it came to my expenses and revenue/balance sheet.

What I did right was free marketing.

Here I am training a group of Army Reservists for a weekend of training. I did this for free.

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Having these pictures and exposure to this was important for building my brand and credibility. The entire fitness center saw me training these guys for 8 hours a day. This was a huge public relations move for me. I didn’t even know what doors it would unlock for me and I thought it was just being a good citizen.

The summary- I was young and soaking up everything I could about the industry. I worked full time and went to college full time. I was able to pay for my entire college tuition by working for myself at the same time. I look at my peers with thousands of dollars in loans and appreciate the route I took.

If I were to have stayed in that career, I would have done very well.

Make mistakes, have failures, but learn from them and grow.

 

3 Reasons why most blogs fail in 2018.

Yo. Life moves fast. Like real damn fast. I started a blog back in 2010 called Unveiled Wellness which was my platform to put my knowledge about holistic health before it became trendy.

But man, that was almost 10 years ago. That is crazy.

I lasted …maybe 6 months. I wrote about 10 blog posts about Monsanto, GMO foods, probiotics, etc etc. I felt so cool.  I had a blog. I didn’t even know you could make money with blogs back then. I just wanted to put my information on the intergalactic web space.

So why am I back? writing blogs?

Because everyone has a story and everyone has a perspective. A few years ago, I became fascinated by the thought of perspective.

This may blow your mind but my number 1 of why most blogs fail is that..

1.) They are too scared to fail.

Blogs are thoughts and bloggers aren’t Doctors in the field of their knowledge. They are regular people putting their thoughts on a blog. But something so spectacular that the successful bloggers do  —they aren’t scared to fail.

Some of the blogs I follow are www.neilpatel.com and wellkepwallet.com.

Failure is inevitable in life.

Your adaptation to your failure is what is important. When it comes to blogging in 2018, don’t be scared to fail.

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2. Persistence. I don’t need to define this one, but man, this is a life lesson for everyone.

Enjoy the process, enjoy the things you’ll learn BUT mostly learn from them! Each month you are looking at your blog stats and wonder why your views are dipping. Relax, and do your research. Blogging is work, but it is fun work. Learn to enjoy the process. The bloggers that stay persistent in the process are the ones who go viral overnight and they didn’t even expect it.

 

3. Learn to have fun.

If you aren’t having fun, your readers will know you’re a phony. Blogs need to be authentic and real. Now if you are doing a step by step blog on how to build things it could come off as mechanical if you aren’t applying your own voice to your blog.

 

Wrap it up!

Don’t be scared to fail. My entire essence in life is to learn from my failures and grow from them. Be persistent and don’t give up. If you are trying your best over and over again, the outcome will happen for you. Lastly, learn to have fun because, without fun, it’s just a job.

Take these 3 lessons and keep them in your toolbox. SEO’s, adwords, marketing and so forth are other tools. Each blog is different and so are your markets. Learn your markets and cater your SEO’s and marketing to your own market. Provide your value and the audience will come.

Why mentorship is this best thing for your business and youre not doing it.

We hear it all of the time. “It is better to give than to receive.” Well, mentorship doesn’t work this way. Mentorship is a transactive motion.

“We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.” — Winston Churchill

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Mentoring benefits go both ways because it benefits the mentee and the mentor. There is a such a humanistic gratification that comes back to those who give. I’ve had an opportunity to be a mentor for someone and years later, I couldn’t be more proud. To know how much you affected their life is so powerful. Not only do I think that mentoring makes you become a better leader, I think it makes you become a better person.

As you get older, and your workers become younger, think to yourself, “how are you shaping the future?” Are you giving your generation a bad name by being the old guy who doesn’t see eye to eye with the younger crowd? Or do you try to give value to the young? Not caring is effortless, but I guarantee you giving back will grow you as a person and help someone along the way.

Learning yourself through others will unload the dividends in your business when it comes to investing in your people. You will become eye to eye with them. You will take a different perspective on your people and that is powerful.

BUT!….

you need this word of advice- It doesn’t matter how successful you are, you will always need your own mentor in life.

That is the transactive motion of mentorship.

mentorship doesn’t just end with you helping someone out. It ends with you becoming more aware of cultures, perspectives, and mindsets of others. In return, this will make you a better leader.

 

A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you. – Bob Proctor

What Does It Mean to Fail for Success? A lesson from Michael Jordan Plus More.

Failure– Such a negative and dark meaning to most. On the other paradoxical hand, Failure is the balance of success. Now think about that for a minute…

Now name 5 people you define as very successful.

Do you know their past? Were they trust-fund kids? or did they come from nothing? Most likely 80% of your choices will have come from nothing. Now, how does that have anything to do with failure? Well, great question. Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Gary Vaynerchuk, and others (some of the most innovative people I can think of) come from nothing.

These are the type of people who aren’t scared to fail and take the risk. Think Wallstreet-Risk equals higher rewards. Out of Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, and Dan Bilzerian, who do you look up to most? Depending on your age and ambitions, you may look up to each one of these people at some point in your life but I am sure you boot one of these guys as a role model. Because two of these are innovators while one is not.

Moral of the story, is that successful people fail A LOT. Personally, I keep failing. AND that is OKAY.

This is where I am seeing the most growth. Because I learn so much from it. Think Michael Jordan or even Thomas Edison.

To me, Michael Jordan is one of the biggest celebrity advocates on the Failing for Success mindset. Just read a couple of his quotes.

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  • I can accept failure, but I can’t accept not trying.
  • Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.
Even Thomas Edison, we can all thank him for the lightbulb.

In regards to Failing for Success, he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

The failing for Success mindset isn’t about intentionally failing at something because you think you will succeed certainly afterward. What it is about, is embracing failure as a catalyst for growth and lessons.
If we don’t teach ourselves that move past failures and flip it on its back to understand the hidden message behind failure then you haven’t learned anything.
LEARN, LEARN, LEARN from your mistakes because you are your biggest coach.

3 Reasons Your Journey of Life has Already Begun.

Macro or defined as Large-scale overall.

These days it’s hard to focus on the long-term picture, but living in the now is incredibly valuable. Personally, I have a hard time thinking on a micro level especially when it comes to personal success but that’s okay. I am working on it.

but this is concerning…

We all define success differently. It can include cars, property, money, or family. Breaking down those wants or needs into your Macro and Micro goals are important for your benefit.

Now whatever you define success as, its time to live in the now, because our journey has already begun.

Heres 3 reasons why.

1.) You write your story every damn day. 

Every day is a new page in your own personal book. Catch 22: you are writing it. Each year is a new chapter but there’s is no editing this book but that is okay because your next chapter will be better than the last.

2.) Your goals will change through the years. 

No really… looks back 1 year or even 5 years and reflect on where you thought you would be at this moment right now. Whether you reached your goal or not, you started.

3.) You are building your network along the way. 

This unlocks so much for us as we grow older during our process. People help change us for the better. This can form from bad relationships and good relationships. How many times have you reflected back and thought, “man, I am so glad I’m not friends with that person anymore.”

The scary thing about writing your own story is that you can’t go back and edit. BUT. like any good book, each new chapter will be better than the last. So keep writing your story because you can’t put the pencil down.

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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